Two easy ways to reduce stress.

I love the word refuge as it sounds safe and secure, a place to rest. “Take refuge in the moment.” – Jack Kornfield Being in the moment is the safest place to be, free from overthinking past events or trying to predict and manipulate future events. Both are a waste of energy as we can’t change the past and we don’t have a crystal ball for the future. Stress, worry and anxiety are greatly reduced when you are in the present moment and being mindful is a very good way to do this. A beautiful way to introduce mindfulness in … Continue reading

This is how I meditate.

This is how I meditate

Recently several people have asked me how I meditate. While my meditation varies, as I have different meditations for different things, I meditate the same way I teach others. Morning meditation is best for me, 20 minutes or more. Usually sitting up in bed, in a chair in a sunny spot or outside in the morning sun to top up my vitamin D! My meditation varies as I have different meditations for different things. I do try new ones but this is what I come back to time and time again. To start I relax my body from head to … Continue reading

There are two ways to approach life, in a panic or as it is now.

Last week was to be my busiest week for ages and I was looking forward to the fun agenda I had planned. It wasn’t to be as I caught a nasty cold and I canceled everything. Yes, it was a little disappointing but did I panic about what might have been? Hell no! It is what it is and I had no choice but to rest and restore. My house was a mess, my family ate leftovers or baked beans for the week, no one complained and they have all survived. My mental, physical, emotional and spiritual bodies all needed … Continue reading

Keep it simple

Why do we wait until it’s too late to rest and restore our mental, physical and emotional bodies? The signs are often there but we ignore them until it’s too late and the stress builds up so much that we mentally, emotionally and physically break down. Computers “sleep” when they aren’t being used and we take care of our devices; phone, tablet, laptop when they are running low and need recharging. I can’t understand why we don’t extend the same care to ourselves. The same comparison can be made with “storage” on devices and our ability to manage stress. It’s … Continue reading

Take refuge in your body and breath.

  When I need to find the space between the action and the reaction I take refuge in my body and breath. Grounding, centering, refocus, regroup all mean the same thing – take a moment between the action and the reaction. I like to use the term refuge. Why do I like it? Refuge is such a nice word; it implies safety and we all love to feel safe and secure. I take refuge in my breath and my body because it’s with me all the time. I think of it as sheltering under an awning when a storm is fast … Continue reading

Stop multitasking and achieve more.

Stop multitasling and achieve more.

When I ask women what their challenges are the common response is “not enough time” and “I can’t focus.” I relate to this; I’m a good procrastinator and the champion of “this will only take a minute.” The trouble is consecutive minutes add up and my window of time is gone. Having a mindfulness practice helps with this. Doing things mindfully doesn’t mean you do things slower and while you may not be working faster you get the job done, not half done to come back to “in a minute.” As women, we are so conditioned to multi-tasking, it can be … Continue reading

FAITH – Finding Answers In The Heart

  We all have the answers within us, we always have and we always will. Being still helps us to connect to our inner knowing, our intuition, to the answers that we hold within us. We spend so much time in our heads, not in the moment but in the past or in the future and we overlook, overthink, over rationalise the “feeling” in our gut or our heart and we ignore our inner knowing, or worse we Google an answer or a solution. Being still and letting our constant thoughts settle is a good way to connect to our … Continue reading

Connect with your body and feel it come alive.

Connect to your body and feel it come alive.

  Most of us seem to be very connected to external devices and very disconnected from ourselves. We have aversion to any discomfort, looking for an instant fix rather than investigating and finding the cause. Discomfort and small amounts of pain are good as it tells us something isn’t right, if we care to listen that is. A headache might mean we need some water or a stretch or some fresh air before we pop a pill or two. If something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t. The body doesn’t lie; it’s screaming for attention for a reason and meditation … Continue reading

Why I meditate – meditation is something I can do for me.

  Meditation is something I can do for me. It doesn’t cost me anything, I can do it anywhere at anytime and the benefits are numerous. I started at a time when I was very stressed and mole hills were quickly turning into mountains. I knew I had to do something and a drop in meditation class, it was called deep relaxation back then, came along and off I went. That was the best thing I ever did and I was very lucky that the first class had a huge impact on me. I felt so good that I was … Continue reading

Positive Thinking versus Mindfulness and Mindset

Why positive thinking doesnt always work and mindfulness and mindset does.

I used to be a positive thinker, setting goals and reciting positive affirmations over and over and that was great … for a while. Positive thinking can only get you so far. Vipassana Meditation or Mindfulness has helped me to embrace living life in the moment – all the moments. Vipassana means to see things as they really are. Negative thoughts, feelings and emotions don’t decompose when I bury them, they keep coming back like a sticky fly that won’t go away. Trying to change them into something positive and wonderful is denying my natural humanity. It’s normal to have … Continue reading