Two easy ways to reduce stress.

I love the word refuge as it sounds safe and secure, a place to rest. “Take refuge in the moment.” – Jack Kornfield Being in the moment is the safest place to be, free from overthinking past events or trying to predict and manipulate future events. Both are a waste of energy as we can’t change the past and we don’t have a crystal ball for the future. Stress, worry and anxiety are greatly reduced when you are in the present moment and being mindful is a very good way to do this. A beautiful way to introduce mindfulness in … Continue reading

This is how I meditate.

This is how I meditate

Recently several people have asked me how I meditate. While my meditation varies, as I have different meditations for different things, I meditate the same way I teach others. Morning meditation is best for me, 20 minutes or more. Usually sitting up in bed, in a chair in a sunny spot or outside in the morning sun to top up my vitamin D! My meditation varies as I have different meditations for different things. I do try new ones but this is what I come back to time and time again. To start I relax my body from head to … Continue reading

There are two ways to approach life, in a panic or as it is now.

Last week was to be my busiest week for ages and I was looking forward to the fun agenda I had planned. It wasn’t to be as I caught a nasty cold and I canceled everything. Yes, it was a little disappointing but did I panic about what might have been? Hell no! It is what it is and I had no choice but to rest and restore. My house was a mess, my family ate leftovers or baked beans for the week, no one complained and they have all survived. My mental, physical, emotional and spiritual bodies all needed … Continue reading

Keep it simple

Why do we wait until it’s too late to rest and restore our mental, physical and emotional bodies? The signs are often there but we ignore them until it’s too late and the stress builds up so much that we mentally, emotionally and physically break down. Computers “sleep” when they aren’t being used and we take care of our devices; phone, tablet, laptop when they are running low and need recharging. I can’t understand why we don’t extend the same care to ourselves. The same comparison can be made with “storage” on devices and our ability to manage stress. It’s … Continue reading

Always speak kindly to yourself, it’s nice.

There are nights that I wake up and have trouble getting back to sleep. It’s my racing mind, thought after thought, that is keeping me awake. These thoughts are always of doom and gloom, worry and fear and always irrational. I simply say to my thoughts “not now” or “now’s not a good time” it’s very effective and I go back to sleep. However, I make sure I say this kindly and gently. If the thoughts are very insistent I might tell them to “F! off, not now” and while this is stronger language I still speak to myself kindly. … Continue reading

Take refuge in your body and breath.

  When I need to find the space between the action and the reaction I take refuge in my body and breath. Grounding, centering, refocus, regroup all mean the same thing – take a moment between the action and the reaction. I like to use the term refuge. Why do I like it? Refuge is such a nice word; it implies safety and we all love to feel safe and secure. I take refuge in my breath and my body because it’s with me all the time. I think of it as sheltering under an awning when a storm is fast … Continue reading